5 Ways To BE The BEST Guest EVER
I love having friends over! I'm very blessed to live in a beautiful home that offers stunning views of Dallas, and there's nothing I enjoy more than sharing my home with friends. Whether sharing a home-prepared meal or simply enjoying a few cocktails with friends, there are certain etiquettes you should follow when benefiting from a friend's hospitality. So today, I thought I'd write a short post to remind people how to be the best guests ever!
1) Never Arrive Empty Handed
This is the #1 rule of being a great guest. There's no better way to say thank you than by offering your host a small gift as soon as you arrive. There are plenty of options out there, from a bottle of wine, to a scented candle, even a small box of chocolates. It's not about the gift itself, but more about the gesture. As I open the door and welcome guests inside my home, I'm not focused on the gift, as I am on the kind gesture of someone taking the time to say and show their gratitude. Monetary value means nothing.
If you really want to make a good impression, send a text a few hours before heading over, asking if you can bring anything. Take it from me, no matter how much planning I do, sometimes it isn't until I'm setting the table or bar, that I notice I don't have any ice. However, even if your host is all set and need nothing, that doesn't mean you can arrive empty handed.
2) Arrive Slightly Late
Don't arrive on time, unless you know that your host expects extreme punctuality from you. As a host, I usually make sure that everything is ready on time. However, I always like to have a bit of extra time to catch my breath and have a cocktail on the sofa before guests arrive. Therefore, you should always arrive about 15 minutes late. If you expect to be more than 15 minutes late, sending a quick text is helpful.
3) Don't Bring a Friend, Unless You're Told Too
It happened to me a few times, and every time I find it inappropriate. If you have already asked your host if you can bring a friend, then you must realize that you're actually asking your host to rearrange the table seating, re-consider the food and beverage quantities, and potentially change the whole menu. Your host may also have invited other people and therefore space may be limited. Finally, your host may also simply not want to have any stranger in his or her home.
4) Limit Mobile Use
Avoid taking calls or responding to texts unless it's extremely important. If it is, then excuse yourself from the group and return quickly. If you want to take photos or Insta-share, that's fine, but it shouldn't take you away from being a participant in the evening.
5) Return The Favor
Personally, when Ken and I are invited over to a friend's home, we can't wait to return the favor. It seems like a normal thing to do among civilized people, but it's not always the case. If you are not a great cook or don't have the space to have guests over for dinner, then just have them over for cocktails or wine, before heading out to a nearby restaurant. If you feel space is an issue (even though we entertained in a 236 square foot apartment in Hong Kong) then pick up the check the next time you're all out having drinks. It's not a competition, no one's keeping score, it's simply about returning the favor.
Life should be spent with people you love and enjoy, whether in your home or out on the town. But like any relationship, friendships take work and should never be taken for granted. Being a good friend is sometimes as easy as being a good guest.
I hope this was helpful. I'd love to hear your thoughts in a comment below.
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